Bondage, the lovely strong pull of confines. There are a lot of good web-sites online that can tell you a lot about the implications of bad and good bondage. Please do not try to tie somone up until you know what you are doing. That said, I present to you our sixth installment of BDSM 101.

Don and I are pondering what to do for the next strip and you might be surprised by what we have planned. So please stay tuned, leave us some comics and enjoy!

PS: I am aware of the issues with the Organize Plugin I am using. So is the Author. All we can do is be patient until he has fixed it.

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I monitor the keywords used to find this web-site and while most of them are pretty common, some phrases stick out. They interest me because they pose a question that is sometimes not easily answered and the topic of this entry is born by such a “phrase search”

Investment

How would you treat your slave? How would you treat the one thing that is one of the rarest combinations of devotion and dedication to come by? How you you treat the rarest commodity on the planet? How you you treat the 400 year old painting, the 2000 year old vase? You would treat them with utter care and respect.

Your slave is your investment, not only into the relationship that you and her are living, not only in the unspoken rules of the M/s lifestyle but also in the pool trust necessary to allow her to surrender herself to you.

You would not deliberately damage any of the things I mentioned above, bit through physical action and I doubt you would do something that is going to pay bad dividends either. Your slave should be as precious to you as anything else that you have value for and then about 1000 times more.

Treatment

I own a fairly expensive mountain bike and I expect that bike to operate at peek condition. I have literally kick my bike around, I have fallen, with my bike, down the side of steep hills and I have crashed my bike more than once while riding. That does not mean that I am not taking extraordinary care of my bike after the run is over. I clean my bike, I oil my bike, I replace worn parts, I hone, I squeeze and tweak and I ensure that after a rough day on the track my bike sparkles before it goes back on the hook.

Your slave is no different from that bike when you leave such abstract things as feeling and human nature aside. You might be in a position where you can abuse, use and treat your slave viciously. She will function, she will probably do her very best to give you what you demand, but when you have received that gift of dependability and obedience it is time for you to return something. Your slave, just like the bike, needs to be pampered, cared for and sometimes parts need to be fixed. You cannot expect your slave, just like the bike, to function indefinitely when you never invest in her.

The Human Aspect

When the poet roman Juvenal was asked what a human should desire in their life, part of his answered contained

…orandum est ut sit mens sana in corpore sano…

which translates as:

It is to be prayed that the mind be sound in a sound body

Your slave’s mental health is is determined by how much time you spend understanding her needs and anticipating her fears. If you treat her concerns, her doubts, her fears, her insecurities as galling interruptions to you bigger plans, then you will soon end up with a slave unable to serve you.

Without trust, every M/s relationship is very close to the abyss of becoming and abusive relationship. Abuse is not only something that can be defined by physical abuse, there are enough ways to abuse a human being by abusing their mind. Just to remind you abuse is often defined as:

• Physical: Hitting, pushing, biting, punching, choking…
• Emotional: cursing swearing, attacks on self-esteem, blaming, criticizing your thoughts/feelings…
• Psychological: Threatening, throwing, smashing, breaking things, punching walls, hiding things…
• Sexual: any non-consenting sexual act or behaviour…

Anything which can damage the trust between you and your slave need to be addressed, that is your investment into her mental health, which is just as important as her physical health.

Restraint

I will assume that you are in control of yourself. I have to, because otherwise we would already have a situation which is born out of an abusive relationship. You need to show restraint in the treatment of your slave. If you own a car you would not use it to do the work of a tank. If you own a small house you would not have thirteen people live in it. You need to ensure that your wishes are tailored to what your slave can return. Through her physical abilities, just as much as her mental ones.

The desires you have need to match the abilities of your slave and while I feel it is your duty, just as much as it is mine, to stretch and push my slave’s abilities, it has to be done with utter care. Like bending a piece of wood, when done properly and with care you can bend a piece of wood into something amazing, if you do it with force and show no patience the wood will break and all your investment is gone. Impatience is the arch enemy of any good Master.

Conclusion

This is only a short post because the answer to the question is a short one. Treat your slave like you would treat your most proceed possession. Treat your slave like the one-of-a kind being that she is, treat her as if she was the most important thing in her life and I can guarantee you that you will be able to ask the most atrocious things for her and all that you will get as an answer is going to be “Yes, my Master“.

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Time is of the essence for most of us. That is why this blog is now served from the new server and I have to admit that I am quite pleased by the performance so far.

I have gone through all of the Five Things You Need posts and created a PDF that looks like a little magazin. This should allow you to read the Series at your leisure, print it out or give it to one of your kinky friends without needing to be at a computer.

Just download FiveThings and enjoy every post made so far wherever you like.
I know that I sometimes prefer to read from paper rather than a screen and I hope you will spread not only the word, but also the paper. Because I wanted this little combination of posts to look good, I have gone and bought some stock photography which is subtle worked into the layout of the pages.

I hope that you will enjoy this effort, if you feel that all further posts in the Five series should also be published as a PDF, please let me know. The links in the PDF are enabled so that you can choose to look at the shopping recommendations and buy them should you so choose to. Please note that I am not part of any affiliate program, which means I make no money when you buy from one of the vendors.

Support the vendors, be kinky!

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Valued readers, once more I have to apologise for my inability to keep up with my blog. I wish I could put more effort into keeping everyone up-to-date. I have recently acquired a better hosting environments for the blogs and I am working diligently on moving this blog and my slave’s blog to the faster server. I will of course let you all know when the testing is done and the new machine is up and running. If everything goes well, this should be a transparent switch-over for all of you.

I feel that I have to set the record straight, not because my slave said something wrong in her post on why she aims to be a lady, but because I do not wish to be misunderstood.

I grew up with more women than men shaping my future, simply because my father died when I was very young and even though I have a loving stepfather he had left my education very much to my mother, her sisters and to no small extent to my grandmother. I have the greatest respect for women, I understand that they are equally capable of shaping and leading this world and I do not believe that women are inferior to men in any way shape or form when it comes to abstracts. Will a heavyweight boxer that is male, always beat a heavyweight boxer that is female, it seems very likely, and those distinctions I do make.

I was raised to be a gentlemen and to this very day I still insists on certain things that many of the younger readers might find odd. I insist on opening the car door for my slave to get in and out, I insist on opening doors she passes through and I insist on seating her at the table when we go out. I do these things not because I wish for her to perceive me as her servant in those matters, but because I claim them to be my right.

I have a right to do those things because I am male and that used to be expected by a well educated young man and I do not want our societies watered down norms to take that away from me.

When it comes to ladies, I feel it is the reverse. I love for my slave to express her freedom and to have no need to be constrained by what society expects from her, however as our societies values are deteriorating rather quickly, I appreciate the fact that she will always be someone that I can trust to behave perfectly.

That has nothing to do with being a lady though. To me that is simply knowing when you need to exhibit certain behaviours and what is acceptable at that very moment in time. I want my slave to by just that, my slave. But as my slave she will know exactly how to behave according to the situation she is in. That is my duty as her owner, I need to ensure that she understands that and I am the one to blame if she cannot deliver me that wish.

Luckily for me when it comes to behaviour in public my slave is already well trained and I see no reason why I would want to change any of that. I think I should enforce a little more femininity now and then but that is very seldom. I love the fact that my slave is not an artificial being clouded in a layer of make-up when she leaves the home for just a normal day out, but I do feel we need to work on the dressing up when it is not just a simple day out.

I want her to be the centre of attention, because I know that behind every great man there is an even greater woman. It is important to me to establish that understanding with her and of course with the people that she and I will meet together.

I want others to want her, whether that is my boss in a completely innocent setting or a fellow Dominant in the depths of a dungeon. I want my possession to be something desirable, something nations would wage war over and bold men would pick weapons up for. That is slightly idealistic, but it is still an exhilarating feeling when you can think about your slave that way and it that very moment your partner.

That has nothing to do with being a lady though. To me that is simply knowing when you need to exhibit certain behaviours and what is acceptable at that very moment in time. I want my slave to by just that, my slave. But as my slave she will know exactly how to behave according to the situation she is in. That is my duty as her owner, I need to ensure that she understands that and I am the one to blaim if she cannot deliver me that wish.

Luckily for me when it comes to behaviour in public my slave is already well trained and I see no reason why I would want to change any of that. I think I should encorce a little more femininity now and then but that is very seldom. I love the fact that my slave is not an artificial being clouded in a layer of make-up when she leaves the home for just a normal day out, but I do feel we need to work on the dressing up when it is not just a simple day out.

I want her to be the center of attention, because I know that behind every great man there is an even greater woman. It is important to me to establish that understanding with her and of course with the people that she and I will meet together.

I want others to want her, whether that is my boss in a completely innocent setting or a fellow Dominant in the depths of a dungeon. I want my possession to be something desirable, something nations would wage war over and bold men would pick weapons up for. That is slightly idealistic, but it is still an exhilarating feeling when you can think about your slave that way and it that very moment your partner.

Because I am not living in an utopia where it is socially acceptable to own my slave and literally have her be my possession, no matter how much she wants that, I have come to the realisation that my way to compensate for that is to turn her into something so desirable, that others simply want to participate. I want them to ask me how I did this and why it is possible for us to lead a life that is usually filled with nothing but excitement and adventure as we both grow together.

I want her to be able to behave like my fair lady, my bitch, my fuckholes, my pony, my maid, my toilett, but I aways want her to be my slave and my precious possession.

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