Are we naturally drawn to what is forbidden or perceived as taboo? Discussing the idea of BDSM has become popular, even in mainstream media and the Porn has long since discovered that there is money to be made with screaming girls and hooded body builders donning a whip.

When it comes to puppy play we are still at the outskirts as it seems. While I perceive it to be a fetish like any other some people must feel it to be a most tantalising taboo. What do I base that observation on?

This blog is meant for the BDSM newcomer to explorer and learn more, yet recently the main keyword which leads people to this blog is “puppygirl”. Partly that is due to the BDSM #5 instalment which features a very explicit interpretation of my idea on what puppygirls ought to be, however it also leads me to believe that people research and crave for this type of fetish much more than they might like to admit.

Let us face it, most good dogs are docile, the look up to their pack leader and they are submissive towards their pack leader. Consequently we could assume that anyone with a knack for dominance likes that natural behaviour in a dog. Why not transfer it to a human being then?
Simple commands which can be followed such as “beg”, “sit”, “down”, “up”, “fetch” and the like are easy to learn and easy to remember. Now add positions which seem to serve a certain purpose and the fact that most dogs will naturally lower themselves when they show submission. Last but not least dogs need training so that they can understand what behaviour the pack leader expects of them.

Need I say more? It fits like a glove and the added benefit of the humiliation that you could choose to share your puppygirl with a real dog just makes it all the more tantalising.  Puppygirls are real and there are enough videos in the wild which clearly prove that a dog can manage to happily stick his cock into a human asscunt or cunt without any trouble. There is no health risk associated to that act and as such the health police can be easily silenced.

The morale police might not be so easily silenced. Is it ethical to cross breed between species and what does it say about the person that looks at such an act and sits there with the desire to be the next person on her, right after the dog’s knot deflated and she is ready for more action.

My slave is terrified, because she knows that I would happily indulge in this type of play. Not only because I think the added factor of humiliation and being actually dominated by an animal adds a perverted twist to the fetish, but also because I have a hunch that a part deep inside her gets terribly turned on by it. My hunches are usually right and being right in this particular case might force her to completely reconsider who she is and what her values are as a slave. Lucky for her I am a cat lover and lack the patience for a dog in our home.

I will always pursue the idea of puppy play though and I strongly believe that it will be something that I might put a focus on once we find a pet to live with us. In this case I am referring to a human being though.  In a former article I describe custom puppygirl gear and I believe that there is actually money in that market.

Someone offered to build a prototype for me if I covered the costs and I am starting to believe that this could be a niche product that will actually pay off. Considering that there is so much interest in the matter I should start taking pre-orders right now. Without trying to taunt my readership I am quite sure that I will not drown in those orders. People are usually shy and I would be surprised if anyone at all showed interest. However it is obviously your prerogative to prove me wrong.

There is always a niche somewhere it only has to be discovered. Further to my points above, where do you keep a dog; on a leash. That should only add more fuel to the fire. Humans want to domesticate and control, some more than others and for us that are inclined to control as a part of who we are pupygirl play should not be something that is a fringe, that is odd and has a stigma to it. Go, explorer with your slave while I now go and try to convince that individual to start building the prototype. Let those pre-orders roll in, I dare you.

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Tags: dog, dominance, fetish, puppy, puppygirl, puppygirls, submission

In general I do not like to bore my readers with personal matters. I believe that this online resource should be used to further the understanding of what BDSM and in particular Master/slave relationships mean. I cannot help but revisit that goal. Back when I started writing this resource I knew that it would be a very abitious goal. I have as job that demands a lot of my attention and I do like to devote time to my slave now that we are finally living together. I am not someone glued to the Computer and I do not necessarily think that investing money in a hobby is the best use of my cash.

The Return on Investment I get from this work is the knowlegde that others benefit and that one person might change her or his point of view on BDSM and the many ideas it encompasses.

Albeit it might sound like a complaint I have to stress that it is not, I am trying to find a better feedback loop. In 2006 Jakob Nielsen published a work on participation inequalities on the Internet. He coined the 90-9-1 rule which states:

• 90% of users are lurkers (i.e., read or observe, but don’t contribute).
• 9% of users contribute from time to time, but other priorities dominate their time.
• 1% of users participate a lot and account for most contributions: it can seem as if they don’t have lives because they often post just minutes after whatever event they’re commenting on occurs.

If that is the case for this web-site then I am in big trouble.

When I am active or a new comic is published this web-site get around 100 unique visitors a day. Going by the rule above I wouldhave nine casual contributors a day and one person burning to contribute. I do not see those numbers and I do not expect to see them in a long time.

I am craving a better feedback mechanism and I think I need to explain that this is not an effort of myself alone. I am more than open to guest writers, people wanting to contribute to the Normion gallery and of course other content which might have value to indivudals learning more about our community.

Personally I feel that I have failed creating a feedback loop which puts me in touch with my readers. This web-site is usually not being commented on, because my statements are of a more general nature and not as personal as my slave’s.

Email, online forms and of course soliticing for feedback in the comments seem rather inefficient when you communicate with a very narrow target audience. I am asking for help this time. Do you have any ideas on how to better communicate with you.

I want to remove the fear some people have when it comes to participating and communicating on thisd specific topic. The many ideas I have had to make this happen continue to form, here are just a few and you are welcome to speak and comment on all of them:

• BDSM 101, our comical take on M/s
• Normion, a free gallery of commisioned Fetish pictures
• BDSM Fashionistas, an attempt at BDSM centric apparel and a fashion line
• BDSM for Charity, the idea of creating a fetish specific calendar for sale, all proceeds would go to charity
• BDSM Interviews as text, audio or even video.
• Interactive map of Fetish Models and Photographers.

Some of these I have begun working on, others are a growing seed in my mind.
I want the community to be a part of this process and thus ask for your input.
Leaving a comment is the easiest way of getting in touch. No worries, your comments will not be visible to the world right away and if you make it apparent in the comment I will not publish it, but only use it to get in contact and discuss your feedback.

The doors are opened, welcome in!

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Tags: bdsm community, feedback, feedback mechanism, Jakob Nielsen, Master

I spent the last few days being sick. Not due to some illness that had befallen me, but my choice. My wisdom teeth had to come out and because I am notoriously shy when it comes to going to the dentist I gathered all my resolve and “had it done”. Being dependent on my slave is nothing I fear, I am not the stereotypical male with the hardcore belief system that you only go to the doctor when your arm half falls off and that crying from excruciating pain makes you a “pussy”.

My inability to be in control over the past couple of days, mostly thanks to the wonderfully effective oxycodone I happily swallowed every four hours,was not truly a choice of mine. I loath the feeling of loosing control over myself and the situation I am in or about to put myself in.

I have and had nothing to worry about though. As prejudice as it may sound, I personally feel that there seems to be a lack of respect on the most basic level for slaves. This is especially something I seem to notice when ownership is already established and “Master does as he likes”. I came to ask myself what it is that makes us dominants think of our slaves more like a chore rather than a precious commodity.

I will no try to lump everyone together, so this is directed at the ones who do not feel that being “nice” or considerate belong in the “job description” of being a dominant.
That we live in an illusion of control as dominants should be something that we can all agree on by now. There are enough articles, resources and lengthy essays on the topic strewn all over the digital space. I do not think it is necessary to revisit the topic, let us assume for it to be true.

It is my slave’s choice to serve me and to subject herself to my control and her emotional well being plays an important role in that ability. For her to serve well it is in my best interest to keep her in a state where she is not only emotionally complete but where she feels appreciated. Through the haze and mist of demeaning behaviour, abusive language and degrading play with any human being there is always an inner core left which needs nurturing.

My ability to balance minimum of effort with maximum impact makes it easy to manage my slave and her expectations, not only in me, but also herself. Stopping by the store on my way home to pick up a single flower has insignificant impact on free time or money, but the gesture itself has a maximum of impact on her. Not only does it reflect that I care about her, it is also a calculated gesture to reinforce that I appreciate the emotional and physical toll my slave is paying everyday by being who she is.

Being considerate is not about cuddling and spoiling your property, it also most definitely is not about spending thousands of dollars on her. The requirement is one that is much harder to fulfill and that is what makes it so precious to her, you need to invest time and thought.

There are thousands of ways to invest some thought into what your slave does for you on a daily basis and I am not only referring to plain servitude that might be encapsulated in her cooking, cleaning, washing, doing the taxes, baking, sucking your cock or walking the dog. Your mileage will vary and you know best how your slave is most useful to you in the environment you have chosen to create for each other.

You will not create an imbalance in power just because you decide to do the dishes for once or because you decide to cook next Friday. Consistency is important in any Master/slave relationship but exceptions only reinforce the rule. Your property knows very well that you do not have to do the dishes, that you do not have to cook. She understands that you do it as a choice, that you choose to do it, because you decided that she deserves it. You are gifting her with your time and what is there that is more precious in this world. Time easily is the one commodity that cannot be recovered, once it is given or used for a particular circumstance it is gone, irrevocably so.  What better and more pleasing is there to anyone than to think “…and he spent it on me…”.

The fact that I bring home a flower is negligible, sure it looks good and I know my slave likes roses what makes it special is that I invested time. I would sincerely suggest that you reconsider the next time you feel that a manicure or a new haircut is an adequate way to guerdon your slave. How much time do you invest in her nails or her hair?

Your properties emotional well being is the most precious commodity you have in your relationship and by extension that makes her physical form just as important. Closing the loop and returning to the statement of being nice, I took the liberty of looking up the term nice, amongst many other definition, this is the one that struck me most:

Exhibiting courtesy and politeness: a nice gesture.

To me it is quite obvious that regardless of the lifestyle we choose to make a part of who we are exhibiting courtesy and politeness should be a part of any relationship. I accede that courtesy and politeness in a M/s relationship need to be measured against a different scale than in a vanilla relationship, yet they need to be present and ingrained in the dynamic of the relationship for it to truly work.

Sustainability can only be achieved when you replenish what you take at an equal or greater rate than it is being depleted. I am not advocating for you to be the nicest Master on the planet nor do I think that every slave needs the same level of courtesy and politeness. Some might need little to none others might be more fragile and demand such attention in order not to break, but what I urge anyone is to find their equilibrium of niceness.

Treat your property as the rarest of commodities, with the understand that what you take out of her might not be so easily replaced and what you might end up replacing it with might turn out to not be pleasing at all.

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Tags: communication, expectations, master and slave, ownership, relationship, responsibility, servitude, slave couple

We recently collected two kittens which I had purchased a while back. They are many things, but one thing becomes progressively clear to me. The are exceptionally playful kittens. I expect that behaviour and I also expect their behaviour to change even more. As they are becoming more familiar with their environment they will become bolder, test boundaries and thus become even more playful.

My slave seems to be going through the same transition at the moment. I have always expected her to be playful and while we live this lifestyle 24/7, I do not believe that we need to cultivate the common perception of 24/7 seriousness within all Master/slave relationships.

As she is becoming more familiar with me and feeling safer with us being together physically I am experiencing her subconsciously experimenting with my willingness to let behaviours slide.  Sje also seems to deliberately test how often I will accept her saying no, when we have long ago established that a simple no will not do for her as my slave.

I expect her to act like this for too many reasons to list here, one of the main reasons though is that she is a human being and we often test the limits of the environment we are in once we have come to be very comfortable with it.

It is my duty as her Owner to harness this additional energy. When we are unsure of ourselves and doubt the environment we are in we exert a lot of additional bits of energy on that state of mind. We deliberate and ponder, we delay our decision making process and we generally take longer .

With her recent request for a  photo session she has clearly indicated to me that she is getting more secure with me and our current situation of living together.

I know there was a certain level of apprehension prior to us being in the same physical space. We had had a very long lasting long distance relationship and we now had to transform it to something else. Neither of us could be 100% sure that it would work out.

It is now up to me to use her new found willingness to explorer and channel it into the right outlets. Very much like I want the kittens to be wild, run around, mock-fight, scratch and bite. I simply need to guide them to do it on the scratching post and not my feet.

I will monitor the situation, I will also continue to use the list of rules my slave has asked for to channel her behaviour. It will make it easier for me to adjust my own expectations as I am becoming more open with this situation myself.

If all fails, there is always the possibility of corrective action, however at this point in time I would be most reluctant to employ such a harsh instrument. Energy is simply that, it is energy. It is my job now to channel it into something positive.

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Tags: behaviours, dominance, Education, Energy, excitment, lifestyle, Master, master slave relationships