Recently my slave has pub­lished a post on her journal, explain­ing in detail my love for toys. I believe that a well bal­anced box of toys can enhance your sex life immensely, even if you are liv­ing in a vanilla rela­tion­ship. Toys are cap­able of enhan­cing or sub­sti­tut­ing sen­sa­tions dur­ing and before sexual inter­ac­tion. Toys can also be used to deny a stim­u­lus or turn it from being pleas­ur­able into tor­ture and then back again. A roller-coaster of sen­sa­tions which is com­pletely sep­ar­ated from what you are doing to your slave’s mind or body.

Main­stream?

Recently mild forms of BDSM have gained much trac­tion in the main­stream Porn industry, espe­cially the bond­age and fet­ish cat­egor­ies seem to be a thriv­ing new mar­ket, bring­ing act­resses like Bel­ladonna, Annette Schwartz and Bobbi Starr bet­ter access to the main­stream audience.

Too Tame…

Those rather mild forms of BDSM often revolve around rough sex, deep-throating and stretch­ing of holes. My slave is dif­fer­ent, more than any toy in the world my slave is my favour­ite toy. She is the ulti­mate in “toy-creation”, because she is ever chan­ging, never “done” and will always develop “new fea­tures”. I can train her to be almost any­thing I want her to be, which includes the way she looks, right down to modi­fy­ing her body to please me bet­ter. I can train her to speak dif­fer­ently, in a dif­fer­ent lan­guage if that made me happy, as she is a human being, my ima­gin­a­tion is barely lim­ited.
Under­stand­ing this, you can infer that my sex life is about as good as it can get for a male. I do not need to worry about whether she likes to swal­low or will spit, whether I may fuck her ass or not, how she would feel about a three­some or whether I will be allowed to watch her lap a cunt. All of these things are part of my cre­ation and my toy will obey me, because this toy has been cre­ated for my pleas­ure, my ulti­mate pleasure.

What Then…

My slave knows that she is pleas­ing me and in pleas­ing me, she is mak­ing me happy. Many of the dis­cus­sions, even in very good rela­tion­ships, around sex are dis­cus­sions I will never have to have. That removes a lot of stress from the back of my mind, because I know that my desires have been accep­ted and that I can turn my fantas­ies into real­ity any­time I choose to do so. That gives me a very warm, fuzzy feel­ing and I can focus my atten­tion on the more import­ant things. How to pro­gress my career, cre­ate a happy and safe envir­on­ment for my slave, how to edu­cate myself so that I can bet­ter under­stand her and how to ensure that she is happy with me by serving my needs and receiv­ing the feed­back she deserves.
This life­style is not lim­ited to the sexual prac­tices and ideas often talked about in art­icles and even in the main­stream press, this life­style is very much about mak­ing a choice to look at your life and how you approach it in a com­pletely dif­fer­ent way. If we can reduce the amount of time waisted on top­ics which do not really advance us, then we can take that time and invest it into mak­ing ourselves bet­ter. Not only for our own good, but to prosper for and with you part­ner.
Sex and sexual prac­tices are an essen­tial part of our lives, they rule us more than we would like to think. If we man­age to tame that beast, by admit­ting ourselves into a world of pleas­ure whenever we feel like it, without guilt or shame, then we are in a pos­i­tion to bet­ter share ourselves and cre­ate a longer last­ing, much tighter bond with our part­ner. My slave is my Toy and in being my Toy she is bond­ing myself to her. I love my toys and some toys, I get addicted to, toys like my slave.