My words are writ­ten down in the hopes of oth­ers find­ing them in some way amus­ing or help­ful. I real­ise that this web-site can only become bet­ter by invit­ing oth­ers to com­ment, ask ques­tions and give me hints on what is inter­est­ing to my small, but highly qual­i­fied, com­munity of read­ers. To stay in touch and to leave com­ments on my post I am now invit­ing all of you to register on my little web-site.The main perk or regis­ter­ing is that you can leave com­ments and cus­tom­ise some of the aspects of the site, if you are not using any of the smart feed-readers out there, you may also ask to be noti­fied when I update my site. My ulti­mate goal is to grow this web-site and my slave’s web-site into a use­ful resource for those already part of the life­style and those want­ing to enter it. This might expand past what is pos­sible now, based on your inter­ac­tions with me.

This Is A Life-style

life-style [lahyf-stahyl]nounthe habits, atti­tudes, tastes, moral stand­ards, eco­nomic level, etc., that together con­sti­tute the mode of liv­ing of an indi­vidual or group.

As the BDSM-community we are a group of indi­vidu­als and I strongly believe that there are those of us who do not under­stand the extent of the word life-style. While ele­ments of BDSM can be used as a kink, as some­thing to spice up your sex-life and to make it more inter­est­ing again those ele­ments only con­sti­tute a tiny part of what BDSM life-stylers believe their asso­ci­ation with their way of liv­ing to be.
Hand­cuffs, a light spank­ing on the ass, a roughly handled fuck and a stern no>/strong> now and then do not con­sti­tute a rela­tion­ship based on dom­in­ance and sub­mis­sion. There are many other aspects to it and one of the key ones is the will­ing­ness of your part­ner to sur­render their free will to you. To make that choice and to stick with the decision. This import­ant fact seems to be ignored very often and the per­cep­tion being developed right now in soci­ety misses out on these less obvi­ous elements.

Once more! Sex is a very import­ant part of any func­tional Master/slave rela­tion­ship, BDSM is not about sex alone! Soci­ety already knows little about BDSM and what it means to indulge in this life-style. We are respons­ible for any mis­un­der­stand­ings which res­ult from inform­a­tion being par­tially offered. We need to be adam­ant about offer­ing a com­plete pic­ture of what BDSM means. What the dif­fer­ent aspects and areas are and how they inter­act with each other. Much like we have defined what a mar­riage is, how we are liv­ing together as wife and hus­band and what is accept­able, we need to start doing this for a con­sen­sual Mas­ter and slave relationship.

Com­mon­al­it­ies

I will hap­pily argue that we can see com­mon­al­it­ies in many Master/slave rela­tion­ships. We will all have a very spe­cial way of deal­ing with our slave, under­stand­ing what she needs and of course we will have our own way of determ­in­ing what makes our slave pleas­ing to us, but we are prob­ably very close to hav­ing the same moral stand­ards and maybe even a sim­ilar eco­nomic level. I would also argue that we, as a soci­ety of life-styler will exhibit cer­tain com­mon­al­it­ies in what we learned and what we are able to com­pre­hend. To me that is a nat­ural pro­cess, we can help oth­ers identi­fy­ing whether they are close to these same interests by men­tion­ing them more. By agree­ing that we can develop interest and clearly show that all of us are quite sane. That much thought and beha­vi­oural train­ing has gone into this life-style and that we police what are doing as a community.

Shar­ing Your Thoughts

Tak­ing into account what I men­tioned above, we need to share more and bet­ter. We need to share all top­ics and for that very reason I have opened regis­tra­tion on this web-site. I am inter­ested in your thoughts and I am most inter­ested in shar­ing your thoughts with the world.