Her Owner

“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much because they live in the grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt

There is never a need to try and express something again when someone has done it before you and succeeded in doing so. Risk is an integral part of our lives and I strongly believe that those of us who have chosen to live this alternative lifestyle are deliberately taking risks.

We take the risk of being outcasts, simply because the majority does not understand this lifestyle, we risk being misunderstood by our closest friends and even our families. We risk rejection and being outcasts simply because we like to do what others deem unacceptable, yet still we seem to relish it.

Risk is a remarkable trait of our societies and of human nature. I am currently in the process of reading a book titled Against the Gods: The remarkable story of risk and it is partly to blame for this entry in my blog.

Mitigating Risk

Interactions with my slave are more often than less based on me trying to mitigate risk. I understand and treasure that nothing is more important to my girl than to see me happy, to please me and to obey me. I know that she is more than willing to go that one step further than she is comfortable to, just because I ask her to. Pushing the boundaries of what one is conformable with is a risky business. I understand that.

Whenever I try to break down a taboo, whenever I try to ask for something that is scary to her I am carefully considering the risks involved. The one I truly worry about it is the risk of me destroying that ultimate trust placed in me to know when it is enough and thus destroying our relationship, everything else is just another factor to consider.

Depending on what I am asking of her, I will strike a balance between what an acceptable risk is and what is not. Naturally I am sometimes in a position where I cannot safely predict how risky something is and that is when I trust on my instincts.

Poker, Gambling and slaves

I do not gamble and as such I do not play for money. Poker is a good example of what I am trying to write about when I say that I sometimes simply go by instinct. When you look at the top poker championships in the world you will see familiar faces in familiar top position across many different tournaments.

Poker does not have any fixed odds and it is considered a game that is based purely on chance when you remove the human factor. The people you see are there because they have learned to go by instinct whenever they feel that they cannot read their opponents odds by simply looking at their own cards. Those players have learned to rely on other factors in the absence of a proper risk assessment for their next move.

What to Consider

I would hope that you can learn to do the same thing when interacting with your slave. I am very comfortable with what I am, being the owner of my slave. I love the power, the control and the care, but what I also love is that I constantly have to pace myself and decide whether my own wishes are something that she is capable of granting me. When I think about risk, I usually have a few things I always consider:

• Location – Where is this going to happen
• Mood – Does my slave need to be in a certain mind-set prior to me introducing this idea
• Tools – Do I understand the tools I might want to use well enough
• Skill – Am I skilled enough with the aforementioned tools to do this safely
• Preparation – Do I feel my slave should be surprised by this or does she need to be slowly prepared for it.

This is by no means a complete list and you should try to come up with you own, but it should give you a good idea which factors I try to consider before I make a decision. You also have to understand that none of the things I mentioned above ends up being a laborious and longwinded task for me. I make my decision very quickly when I am introducing small changes, I spend a lot of time thinking about it when I am introducing very big changes.

Balancing the Returns

Small changes are easier to sustain and less risky than bigger ones and usually the payout will be much more consistent. I am not after the big win, I already won my biggest hand when my slave allowed me to own her, I am after consistency. The hands I play are the small ones and I almost always win. With these small hands it is easy for me to mitigate the risk and when I do fail it is much easier to repair the damage done. Such a tactic requires a lot of patience but the cumulative pay-out is simply enormous.

I love my slave and I want to see her happy all the time, even though she knows that being owned by me is risky.