For those of you who come to this blog reg­u­larly you might recall what I said about patience and how it can help to train your slave. I am proud to report that my patience has recently paid off, because my slave has asked me to be less leni­ent with her. It might be hard to under­stand that type of logic and I would not ever put myself into a pos­i­tion where I thought that I fully under­stood it, but tight con­trol and abso­lute obed­i­ence towards that con­trol are things which drive my slave forward. 

Being Leni­ent

I am a strong believer in meas­ured responses, as such I can always choose to what met­ric I am apply my meas­ure. I have always been more than thought­ful towards my slave’s feel­ings, her emo­tional read­i­ness towards a cer­tain action and of course her over­all state of mind. That some­thing requires me to post­pone or re-plan, when I have set out to do some­thing but in the end it does not quit pan out the way that it should be. 

I am a lot more extreme in my applic­a­tion of per­ver­sion and kink, as such I have always had to “wait” for my slave to catch up. I am glad to say that this wait­ing period is over now. This is prob­ably also reflec­ted in the fact that I am start­ing to acquire more  expli­cit toys. Such as a lovely fox­tail butt-plug and vari­ous head har­nesses. These toys will serve to phys­ic­ally express what my slave has known for a very long time, that she craves tight con­trol and that she wants to be held account­able for her actions, very strictly so.

The Impact

You might ask your­self what it means to loose this buf­fer of leni­ency and why I would care at all, after all this seems to indic­ate that I get much quicker to what I want. Something that I should be treas­ur­ing. In a way a do, on the other hand I know that this just increases my risk of fail­ing her. When push­ing lim­its, when demand­ing some­thing for your own pleas­ure you need to be very aware of the cap­ab­il­it­ies of the mind you are deal­ing with. Think of it as a cer­tain type o mater­ial, let us say a spe­cial steel. You need to be very sure to what forces you can expose that mater­ial, you need to know exactly when it is going to break, even more so when you do not spend hours and hours cal­cu­lat­ing, instead you just go by your belly, because it will pre­serve time and get you more quickly to where you want to go.

I think that my slave has admit­ted to her­self that she is not made out of rub­ber, she is made out of steel, which means that she can take a lot more stress than I have ever sub­mit­ted her to. I am very pleased that this devel­op­ment has star­ted and I am even more pleased that I am a part of it. 

This will have an impact on what I expect from my slave, how I will react to cer­tain top­ics, such as tak­ing pho­to­graphs of her or cer­tain acts I will require her to per­form. It also has an impact on how long I will wait until some­thing is being done. One decision already hav­ing been shared on her web-log, a pier­cing that will nicely impact on her every­day life and remind her that she is my slave and always will be.