Avid read­ers of this blog, I wish to thank you for stick­ing with me and pay­ing atten­tion to what I have to say. I treas­ure the know­ledge that my care and atten­tion to detail pleases you and that my will­ing­ness to share is use­ful to others.

Those of you who have been read­ing my slave’s blog will have noticed that she recently seem to devel­op­ing a need for even more con­trol and that it is a very lib­er­at­ing exper­i­ence to her. It is a lib­er­at­ing exper­i­ence to me as well, as I will no longer have to con­sider so care­fully what I can push her towards accepting.

Rede­fin­ing Boundaries

Cemen­ted by recent stud­ies shaped beha­viours are more sens­it­ive to change rather than instruc­ted bhea­v­iours. I would argue that most of the beha­viours you will be try­ing to redefine the bound­ar­ies off are shaped beha­viours. They are deeply ingrained and no less part of your slaves’ per­son­al­ity than her smile or laughter.

Act­ive push­ing, pass­ive sliding

To push your slave you will ulti­mately start to redefine shaped beha­viours she has been exhib­it­ing for years. I make a dis­tinc­tion between:

• Act­ive beha­viour train­ing and “pushing”
• Pass­ive beha­viour train­ing and “sliding”

Act­ive beha­viour push­ing should be fairly self-explanatory. In this modus operandi you choose to act­ively “push” a cer­tain topic by provid­ing instruc­tions and motiv­a­tional goals in order to mani­fest that behaviour.

Pass­ive beha­viour slid­ing seems a bit more com­plic­ated. It is based on psy­cho­lo­gical assump­tions which have recently been con­firmed in six stud­ies, to quote:

Recent research has revealed that non-conscious activ­a­tion of desired beha­vi­oural states–or beha­vi­oural goals–promotes motiv­a­tional activ­ity to accom­plish these states. Six stud­ies demon­strate that this non-conscious oper­a­tion of beha­vi­oural goals emerges if men­tal rep­res­ent­a­tions of spe­cific beha­vi­oural states are asso­ci­ated with pos­it­ive affect… — Journal of Per­son­al­ity and Social Psy­cho­logy. 2005 Aug Vol 89(2) 129–142

Tak­ing into account that your slave likes noth­ing more than to please you it should be easy to pass­ively trig­ger desired beha­vi­oural states, by act­ively pro­mot­ing through praise or noti­cing a par­ticu­alr activ­ity. I will often resort to this tac­tic when I notice that my slave has done some­thing on her own accord which is well posi­tioned for my plans to change one of her beha­vi­oural pat­terns. Loos­ing her fear of get­ting caught while being in a sexu­ally com­prom­ising situ­ation is a good example. I call this pass­ive slid­ing, because you need to wait for the right event to “slide” the desired change into your slave’s mind so that it may mani­fest itself.

But…is that normal?

It might seem to you as if I was spend­ing most of my time ana­lys­ing my slave and clev­erly manip­u­lat­ing her. Is that nor­mal? Is it moral? First of all remind yourselves that you are com­pletely nor­mal. Even sci­ence seems to be catch­ing up, com­ing to that same con­clu­sion in a recent study:

Juliet Richters PhD, Richard O. de Vis­ser PhD, Chris E. Ris­sel PhD, Andrew E. Gru­lich PhD, Anthony M.A. Smith PhD (2008)
Demo­graphic and Psychoso­cial Fea­tures of Par­ti­cipants in Bond­age and Dis­cip­line, “Sad­o­mas­ochism” or Dom­in­ance and Sub­mis­sion (BDSM): Data from a National Survey

I choose to invest some of my time into under­stand­ing human psy­cho­logy and how we inter­act with each other bet­ter, so that I may help my slave build trust in her own abil­it­ies and thus can help her set her­self free. The one thing I envy my slave most for is the fact that she can let herslf go and trust in her being as a slave to not only make the right decisions but also to be coo­coned in a saftey net provided by her­self and myself, thus allow­ing her to exper­i­ment to a level most people never will be able to experience.

How do you do it

Unfor­tu­nately there is no fool­proof way to explain or share a tac­tic which will enable you to copy the exact same way of how I inter­act and try to realign my slave’s shaped beah­viours. What I do is listen very closely for an oppor­tun­ity to apply act­ive push­ing and I will always try to identify a pos­sibly for pass­ive slid­ing. Once you under­stand how your slave reacts to either of these tech­niques men­tioned you will learn to apply them almost auto­mat­ic­ally. In con­clu­sion, what I am try­ing to express, is that you need to listen very closely, always!