Continued training of my slave’s abilities is very important to me and it ensures that my slave never tires of improving herself for me. Regular readers might be aware that I am quite fond of anal sex and how to best use and train my slave’s asscunt has been a topic here before.
A while back I have decided that I would like to train my slave even further and give her the ability to exert better control over her muscles and in particular the ability to stretch and relax her asscunt for my use. To help her with that I have decided to use a toy mentioned here before, the Rectal Dilator Kit.
Rectal Dilator Kit
The RDK will help with the training of my slave as it is specifically engineered to relax the outer and inner sphincter. It features a hollow tube inside the toys to ensure that no pressure builds up as the training commences.
I believe that it is necessary for any Owner of a slave to push their ideas of how the property may serve them better into concrete actions. This does not necessarily mean that your slave will like what you are doing to her. Ensuring her emotional well being might be one of the key tenants of being a good Master but you should never take it too far. There will always be desires and needs that you want your slave to fulfill for you which she has no immediate desire to fulfill for you. The RDK is a good example for that when it comes to my slave. She is apprehensive and because she knows that this will not be the most pleasurable of sensations her mind and body both reject it. None the less I know she will succeed because she is competitive and she wants to be pleasing for me.
Never underestimate your slave’s will to please, it can be her biggest motivator and you need to foster that relationship with her. Because I wanted to remove some of the apprehension that my slave had towards this tool I allowed her to come up with the training plan herself. I wanted her to feel comfortable, as best as possible, and give her some control over how quickly she needs to progress through the toys to achieve a pleasing result.
Here is what she came up with:
There are five dilators and so I believe initial training should carry over five weeks with two weeks for extra training.
Week One:
- First Day: One Hour, in the evening.
- Second Day: One Hour, in the evening.
- Third Day: Two Hours, in the evening.
- Fourth Day: Two Hours, in the evening.
- Fifth Day: Three Hours, in the evening.
- Sixth Day: No training.
- Seventh Day: One Hour during the day; Three Hours, in the evening.
Week Two:
- First Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Second Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Third Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fourth Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fifth Day: 3 Hours, in the evening.
- Sixth Day: One Hour with first weeks dilator.
- Seventh Day: One Hour during the day; Three Hours, in the evening.
Week Three:
- First Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Second Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Third Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fourth Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fifth Day: 3 hours, in the evening.
- Sixth Day: 90 minutes with second weeks dilator.
- Seventh Day: One Hour during the day; Three Hours, in the evening.
Week Four:
- First Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Second Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Third Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fourth Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fifth Day: 3 Hours, in the evening.
- Sixth Day: 2 hours with third weeks dilator.
- Seventh Day: One Hour during the day; Three Hours, in the evening.
Week Five:
- First Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Second Day: 90 minutes, in the evening.
- Third Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fourth Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening.
- Fifth Day: 3 Hours, in the evening.
- Sixth Day: 2.5 Hours with fourth weeks dilator.
- Seventh Day: One Hour during the day; Three Hours, in the evening.
Week Six:
- First Day: 90 minutes, in the evening with first weeks dilator.
- Second Day: 2 Hours, in the evening with second weeks dilator.
- Third Day: 2.5 Hours, in the evening with third weeks dilator.
- Fourth Day: 3 Hours, in the evening with fourth weeks dilator.
- Fifth Day: 3.5 Hours, in the evening with fourth weeks dilator.
- Sixth Day: 4 Hours, in the evening with fifth weeks dilator.
- Seventh Day: 2 Hours during the day; Four Hours, in the evening with fifth weeks dilator.
Week Seven:
- First Day: Sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
- Second Day: Sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
- Third Day: Sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
- Fourth Day: Sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
- Fifth Day: Sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
- Sixth Day: Sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
- Seventh Day: 3 Hours during the day; sleep with fifth weeks dilator all night.
I am pleased with this approach. It is not too ambitious and still there are enough challenges. Her training will start on the first of December, commence through the rest of 2008 and by the middle of January 2009 I should be able to inspect a considerable improvement in muscle control.
Remember to always be patient with your slave when it comes to training her body. Muscles are not meant to change from today to tomorrow. Along with the physical change her mind also needs to catch up and process the fact that stretching her colon will not damage her or cause her to be “loose”. After the six weeks of training I might consider to continue training her with the third largest toy for long-term wear.
Wow! i am impressed with the dedication that you have to your sub and impressed with her ability to draw up a schedule like that. Would love to hear how the training went.
i hope to have a DOM as dedicated as you some day.
slave s.
I am happy to hear that. However you have to understand that most of this work ultimately benefits me, so it is not a chore, it is my pleasure to form my slave the way I would expect her to be for me. If you are long enough a part of this lifestyle and your Master does not afford you that level of detail you should seriously question his dedication to you. I know for a fact that I want what leases me best and if that means making adjustments or training my slave then that has to be done.
sir,
i am a sub, and my dom wants to do anal, but is not willing to take the time for me to relax or anything, he just-excuse the phrase-dives rite in-he will eventually stop when i am kinda crying in pain, but i dont know what to do, it hurts to much to even think of enjoying. Do you have any advice?
As this is a fairly sensitive subject I answered in an email.
I do like kits like this, during my dilation to gape I didn’t have a kit as such, but a graduating from one dildo to the next, which currently my favorite is a UR3 mold of John Holmes 13 inches long and 7 inches circumference, and yes I can gape very well. I will say though what allowed me to have such control and ability to gape at will by just relaxing was using a sure shot enema device, and purchasing a 21 inch cyberskin double headed dildo, cutting off one head and boring out the insides enough to insert the nozzle all the way inside, and then having taken a hallow metal tube from an extend-able antenna and using that to remove a 1/8th inch rod of material down the middle of it, creating an urethra, if you will, for the water to spring forth from, so I could use the dildo in the shower allowing the water flow to open me up gently as the water filled my inside until the pressure built until it would begin to flow back over the outside of the dildo creating a kind of water jacket barrier of lubrication surrounding the dildo and flowing back out of me, which allowed free movement in and out, deeper and deeper and a cushion of liquid opening my insides up deep inside with each new thrust.
Currently, we are in the process of stretching Ryoko’s holes in the same fashion. Watching her little ass stretch open accepting this monster and how each time we play and exercise this gets easier and easier is great, even thoug at times she expresses her jeleousy towards my abilities and ease at this same feat, which I have to remind her that I have been stretching my little hole since I was, well in the low single digits, and she’s only been stretching hers for a year now, lol
Brookedvnt
Your creativity alone astounds me. I absolutely would be interested speaking with you more Brookedvnt, if that is okay. I am curious to learn more about your personal training journey and I am always up for learning to do so myself.
Thank you for this comment.
I am intrigued.
~His
You people are way f’d up a man should not treat a woman as a slave, refer to her as that, or even think it. I fear for what else you might do to your “slaves” if there is a domination such as that to even call them a slave you more than likely have no problem beating them or hurting them emotionally. I am sorry if you were messed with as a child or had a messed up life, it still does not constitute that kind of DEGRADING to another human being.
To ensure that people are comfortable with leaving me comments and to respect the right to have an opinion I chose to approve your comment. It is quite clear to me that you either did not spend any time reading my web-site or you have unresolved issues. I make it clear more than once that I never harm those I am with, be that my slave or kaja and the emotional integrity is something that is paramount to me as well.
I am glad you voiced your opinion though.
My Dom has me currently on your schedule and despite the occasional (pleasurable) pain I must say you are the only one who has provided a good and concise guide to how one goes about “Dilation”. I am deeply sadden to see that there are those individuals who feel the need to voice an opinion (In this case DDD) without any true knowledge or apparent RL experience in the area of Dom/Sub BDSM. It is a true “Relationship” and there is a real “Bonding” as well as an enormous amount of honest “Trust!”, all of these complex elements lead up to a very safe and actually wonderfully stimulating and exciting sexual environment. Not sure what it has to do with “beatings or emotionally distressed adults!?” Thanks again for the training assistance
Apparently you don’t understand that we accept this life fully. As a sub/slave we give our submission to our Dominate/Master. We give them the authority to treat us in the fashion we desire and beg for more.
So which is more degrading:
-not fulfilling your own desires and needs to please. You go through life feeling out of sorts, off balance because you do not submit, can not submit because you found a pansy ass that can not control himself.
OR
-being down on your knees looking into the one you Love, Adore, Cherish because as he is your Devoted Master….you are His slave that he Loves, Adores and Cherishes. He gives you everything you want and need, protects you and takes pride in your service. He controls himself to every extent that you trust him with all your hopes dreams and desires. He in turn expects his wishes to be obeyed and to be followed to every extent.
I for one, would rather be the Cherished Slave of a Devoted Master than to live a life that I am not meant to live. And just because I am a sub/slave does not mean my Master beats me… you either are completely ignorant to this lifestyle or you are just spouting off due to your neglected childhood.
Sincerely,
kinky_pet
Although this is my Masters’ site I do wish to add just one thing: perhaps you could read my journal to completely understand that what I do, I do sanely and with full consent. My _choice_ to live this lifestyle is simply that, _my_ choice. I am not forced. I am not abused. I am not degraded. On the contrary. I am loved. I am taken care of. I am supported and encouraged to be whatever it is I want to be and no matter what I have a man who loves me completely.
This world is full of different perspectives. I respect that. Perhaps though you could have done some research before you made up your mind about the life I lead, the life my Master leads.
~His
Hello,
I was wondering if either the Owner or the property would be willing to give me some information on this training.
First and foremost, I want to know if it worked as intended. Was the property able to fully complete the assigned training, were there any extensions to the training, and what follow up measure were taken to ensure that the gape remained and that the asscunt was useful.
I would also like to know more about the RDK. I am considering purchasing this kit to train my own sluts asscunt. Overall they look like a great training aid, however there is one thing of concern for me. On the extreme restraints web site a reviewer states that the plugs are solid and hard, with no give, and that the base of the plugs will cause pain for the ass crack. This concerns me because my sluts ass has similar issues with long term wear of an aluminum ass jewel and the hard base.
Did your property have similar issues, and if so how did you work them out of, or possibly into, the training routine.
I am more than willing to share anything we have learned so far. I would suggest though that you repeat your questions either here: http://herowner.com/ask-me/ or on my slave’s formspring. It will make it easier for to keep track of the answers. I can honestly say, that the training has been helpful and I also believe that it will be helpful for pet. The reason why the RDK is solid plastic is so that you force the muscle to constantly stretch around the object. There is a tiny hole in the top to relieve the pressure that would build up. The pain on the sphincter or the perineum your property might be feeling is a normal side effect of tearing. Tearing will happen no matter what. This is something you need to be aware off and until the tear is healed training has to stop. However having learned more, with pet we actually might be looking into a softer training kit initially and then make her use the RDK after that initial training is completed, Simply because history has shown that she does better with softer plugs first.
Yeh,
We are currently working with an assortment of tools to help train her asscunt. I believe that the assortment is allowing me to accomplish similar results as the RDK would, however I believe that doing it this way is more time consuming, takes more effort from both of us, and is more painful for My property.
I am aware of the risk of tearing, and thank you for the concern. After every play session or stretching session we thoroughly check her ass to make sure there are no cracks, rips, tears, or any type of blood. So far I am impressed, her ass almost seems to be made of elastic, and will stretch very easily with little effort. I have no doubt she will become a faithful and craving asscunt slut with time.
In the mean time, I have looked around for other RDK’s, hoping to find one that may have a slightly softer base. I understand the reasoning behind the hard plastic, however as My girl is still uncomfortable with the aspect of becoming an anal slut, I am attempting to make the transition as easy as possible.
There seems to be another RDK set, that looks and sounds identical to this one, but for half the price on amazon… I was wondering if you might know of any differences, or whether one might be of lower quality than the other, but obviously understand if you don’t know.
http://www.amazon.com/Size-Matters-Products-Ease-In-Dilator/dp/B001VRHE78
As for Your sub, was she able to complete the training on schedule, or was the routine too fast for her to stretch properly? I am considering using the training routine with my own slut, provided you don’t care.
My Master is wanting to start anal traning with me. Is it true before starting that you are to do an enema? To make sure you are clean before putting things up there for long periods? I have always used anal beads but he is wanting me to wear a butt plug either while at home or at work. I’m doing as much reading on the subject as I can as I like to know what to expect. Thanks!
It is important to understand that your anal training has to be personalised to your needs. Every asscunt is different and as such the muscles need different types of training cycles. Cleaning yourself is a good idea as it can relieve pressure and make sure that you do not get an infection should you tear your sphincter in the course of training. It is also a psychological helper for some people.
I’m submissive and I was always loved with anal sex ever since I started I try to maintain a continuous training, hoping to one day be owned by some master that wants to anal play.
Find your training schedule was very exciting for me because now I can expand my ass based on knowledge of a teacher.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge, I got the kit from amazon.com and start my training this evening … after I tell my evolution, if you want to know, of course.
You are more than welcome. I would be pleased to learn about your progress so please feel free to share!
I have been wanting to use this kit but how do you keep it in? I don’t see how the dilators would stay in.
Hello Val. It seems that the smaller toys will stay put without much problem. The pressure against the outside of the plastic cone keeps it in position. As you move up in the sizes the sphincter is already spread enough to not evacuate them fully.