We recently col­lec­ted two kit­tens which I had pur­chased a while back. They are many things, but one thing becomes pro­gress­ively clear to me. The are excep­tion­ally play­ful kit­tens. I expect that beha­viour and I also expect their beha­viour to change even more. As they are becom­ing more famil­iar with their envir­on­ment they will become bolder, test bound­ar­ies and thus become even more playful.

My slave seems to be going through the same trans­ition at the moment. I have always expec­ted her to be play­ful and while we live this life­style 24/7, I do not believe that we need to cul­tiv­ate the com­mon per­cep­tion of 24/7 ser­i­ous­ness within all Master/slave relationships.

As she is becom­ing more famil­iar with me and feel­ing safer with us being together phys­ic­ally I am exper­i­en­cing her sub­con­sciously exper­i­ment­ing with my will­ing­ness to let beha­viours slide.  Sje also seems to delib­er­ately test how often I will accept her say­ing no, when we have long ago estab­lished that a simple no will not do for her as my slave.

I expect her to act like this for too many reas­ons to list here, one of the main reas­ons though is that she is a human being and we often test the lim­its of the envir­on­ment we are in once we have come to be very com­fort­able with it.

It is my duty as her Owner to har­ness this addi­tional energy. When we are unsure of ourselves and doubt the envir­on­ment we are in we exert a lot of addi­tional bits of energy on that state of mind. We delib­er­ate and pon­der, we delay our decision mak­ing pro­cess and we gen­er­ally take longer .

With her recent request for a  photo ses­sion she has clearly indic­ated to me that she is get­ting more secure with me and our cur­rent situ­ation of liv­ing together.

I know there was a cer­tain level of appre­hen­sion prior to us being in the same phys­ical space. We had had a very long last­ing long dis­tance rela­tion­ship and we now had to trans­form it to some­thing else. Neither of us could be 100% sure that it would work out.

It is now up to me to use her new found will­ing­ness to explorer and chan­nel it into the right out­lets. Very much like I want the kit­tens to be wild, run around, mock-fight, scratch and bite. I simply need to guide them to do it on the scratch­ing post and not my feet.

I will mon­itor the situ­ation, I will also con­tinue to use the list of rules my slave has asked for to chan­nel her beha­viour. It will make it easier for me to adjust my own expect­a­tions as I am becom­ing more open with this situ­ation myself.

If all fails, there is always the pos­sib­il­ity of cor­rect­ive action, how­ever at this point in time I would be most reluct­ant to employ such a harsh instru­ment. Energy is simply that, it is energy. It is my job now to chan­nel it into some­thing positive.