Slave Behaviour — An Example
I thought it would be a good idea to give a very real example of how my slave and I interact and what are some of the trials that we face. Before you continue I would suggest that you review her side of the story first as I will make reference to it.
Back so soon? Very good, let us begin then and explain some of the insight that I have gained from this little blockbuster. To any onlooker I am sick, I exhibit the classic tell tales of someone with the flu. I sniffle, I cough and my muscles are not willing to move as quickly as they should. The level of sickness is still something that is left to my interpretation and only I can ascertain as to how sick I am. The statement that I was not sick merely referred to a well known fact. Even when I exhibit symptoms of sickness I am fairly operational. Being sick to me means that I have to lie in a bed and I am feeling awful. That was no longer the case at that moment, so my retort made sense.
What triggered the reaction my slave received had nothing to do with what she said, but when and how she chose to express herself. When we are in public I expect her to understand her place even better than in our own home. Simply because it affects more people. When I tell my slave that it is my opinion that I am not sick, even though there might be mucus running down my face and I have a fever of 41 degree Celsius, to accept that. This is one of the rare cases where a “Yes Master” is the only acceptable answer.
I expect her to understand that arguing with my opinion in a public place is not acceptable and I also want her to understand that I expect her to support even my more controversial statements.
I want my slave to be successful in everything she desires to be and do. I also want her to be desirable and successful as my slave. The behaviour described above would not be tolerated in another context. For example arguing as to whether I can handle a crop properly. There is always a time and a place to challenge my perception of a particular topic.
In the privacy of our home I am the first to ask for feedback and be corrected on my point of view. I do not want that conversation to happen when I have made a statement to a third party in public. My slaves’ reaction startled me at first because it is nothing special to me to explain a consequence to her. I own my slave and I make no distinction whether that is at home or out in public. The punishment “fits the crime” and it does not matter where I execute on it.
I understand that my slave might be startled at that realisation and I believe it might take a while for it to fully settle in. I love my slave, yet I am learning that more often than not we interact like boyfriend and girlfriend and that has to stop. Maybe this is the first step into the right direction. I do not want a brain-dead, yes nodding slave that adores the stupidest things coming out of my mouth, but I also do not need or want a girlfriend either.
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Thank you very much, to both of you, for sharing a real world scenario you have experienced. It is always nice to see and hear how others react to situations.
While I certainly understand wanting to keep your slave in her place, especially when others are involved, I am confused or at least in stern disagreement with your closing statement.
What is wrong with your slave also being your girlfriend, or perhaps your wife? I know, it is personal preference. But what got my attention with your site and your slaves was your very heartfelt and appopriate article implying we should all cherish our slaves as a priceless commodity. Isn’t the very nature of a slave to serve his/her Master in any and all ways. Is it not her place to be your everything? You’re slave, your slut, your whore, your cook, your companion, your friend, your confidant, your girlfriend, your spouse, your toilet cleaner?
And maybe I’m taking this out of contest, perhaps it is semantics. I would certainly understand your saying you don’t want or need ONLY a girlfriend, or a vanilla girlfriend. But for you to say you and slave interact as boyfriend and girlfriend and to imply that is unacceptable…this baffles me.
Isn’t this in a small way a triumph? She is not braindead nor a doormat, she is capable of being BOTH your girlfriend and your slave and willing to do both. Doesn’t that make her a more valuable commodity than just your obedient slave.
Just my opinion, as your article was yours. No offense meant to you or yours.
That is a lovely comment, thank you very much. The way I chose to word this is very particular to me. I think it is semantics to some extent but it is also how I feel about what we deem our lifestyle. Being my slave is something that is mutual exclusive with some other socially accepted “states”. A girlfriend, a wife, they have their own standing and they represent very different configurations from what I want my slave to be. Those configurations server other ideas and a different purpose from what I want. They require a different type of relationship and interaction that what I want from my slave.
I do not want my slave to be my confidant or best friend. I believe that those are roles best reserved for a third party, simply because doing it that way actually protects my relationship with my slave. I do not want to be my slave’s confidant or best friend either. I encourage her actively to seek that role in someone else.
I doubt that anyone is capable of being wife/girlfriend and slave at the same time. Sooner or later one of them starts to drown out the other and as you are trying to be both, it only causes issues in the end. I believe in specialisation and I guess that is what drives my statements.
I appreciate the reply, as it does make your wording more clearn in it’s meaning.
I can’t say I disagree with you. This is, after all, a matter of preference. While I appreciate specialization when and where it’s needed, I prefer multi-taskers
Best wishes.
Really, I can type, honest. I’m just too quick with the post button. *clear, not clearn *lol*
I felt compelled to comment on your post as I do not necessarily agree with your stance or interpretation. That said I do appreciate that we all operate in our own ways and this stands only to voice my opinion in the matter. Allow me to explain.
I think we can both can come to accept from where the concerned comment came and that it sounded as if it was non confrontational or disobedient in nature. I do understand your position on keeping any relationship at arms length to avoid confusion on either parties position. If in fact you care for each other, are you not doing a disservice by acting as if you don’t for the sake of keeping any roles from being grayed?. I would be the first to agree that there are challenges that arise when you care for the one you own but when put in context it is far more beneficial to have that relationship in addition.
I am aware that most slaves will form an adoration for the ones they serve but if she truly cares for you, as it is obvious she does, I do not see the expression of that to be a punishable act. If you disagree with the time or place then that is something you both need to work on to avoid future missteps. If she cares for you but is not allowed to express it it stands to reason that you will be left with the robotic, yes nodding slave you were trying to avoid.
I mean no disrespect in stating my opinion but I felt as if I should suggest an opposing view if for no other reason then you consider it in the spirit is intended.
I wish you both the best as always.
Sir.
Thank you. I would like to stress this once more. This was completely about her choice of words, the location of the reaction and the appropriateness of such in public. I encourage and want my slave to care as much as I care about her, but I need her to understand when it is OK to express her concern against my own,m public-ally voiced opinion.
As others have mentioned, thank you for sharing your story. I am fascinated by your lifestyle and find myself drawn to it.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while, and we have both expressed our desires to experiment in this world of subs and doms. We are ignorant to all the details and know very little about the basics. I do know I thoroughly enjoy being dominated in every aspect, and he equally takes pleasure in “owning” every part of me. However, I have yet to fully submerge into the role of a slave for a few reasons: 1) I am a very intelligent, very independent and an aggressive individual outside of closed doors 2) We are both hesitant to express our unconventional desires with others/prefer secrecy 3) Finanically we cannot live together nor do I know if he would want to
I know 2 and 3 are not detrimental to fully exploring this world, but the first most certainly is. Behind closed doors, I prefer to be dominated. I take great pleasure in supporting, caring for, and tending to every need my boyfriend has. I am discovering my masochism and crave more of this everyday. However, in public I am recognized by professors and peers as an aggressor, possibly even a sadist (verbally, at least). My passion is politics and I plan to be a well respected lawyer. I’m unstoppable in debates and can manipulate arguments well to ensure my victory.
My dilemma? I want to submit, but I fear wasting my talents. I want to hand over every inch of my being, but I know there is an incredible, natural skill within me I cannot waste. It is ironic individuals on the outside see me as a “Dominator”, a “Leader” (I have been given national awards throughout my educational career on leadership), yet I am a secretly a desperate submissive, torn between my talents and fantasies.
What is your advice? Can’t I be submissive/obedient to my boyfriend (whose paternal nature excites me indefinitely), AND be a respected individual to the public eye?
R,
After reading your comment, my Master nudged me into responding since I can related to your concerns. From all you have shared, I believe you are far more dominant and aggressive in the “outside world” than I am; however, I have always been considered a leader both when I was in University and through my career. In the workplace I take charge, I guide, I am the one people come to for advice and is most often put in charge of all projects and disciplinary actions. With my family and friends I am considered a leader as well and most often take control of all situations, ensuring everyone is taken care of and all things move along smoothly.
When it comes to relationships, I am absolutely submissive, in fact I am Masters’ slave and I would not wish to be anything else. Surrendering to Master, being his property is truly a blessing and I am absolutely comfortable in my place, being Masters’ toy, his slave.
I can not recall ever struggling with my two very different lives. I am a relatively private person and what happens in my private life is just that, not open for those I work with, with my family. I work very hard to ensure my lifestyle does not conflict with my career; however, I am very adamant that my career does not dictate my personal life and should anyone in my career find out, so be it. (And I work with children who have been sexually abused, are abusers.)
I wish you and your boyfriend all the best. I hope the journey you take is one filled with excitement and pleasure and that you enjoy and embrace everything.
Best wishes!!!
~His
Thank you for the response and I hope to put the advice to good use. I will continue to read.
- R
R,
You are most welcome and I do wish you continue to read, continue to ask questions, continue comment.
~His
ok now i want to know why the pillows onn top of her head… I have a question for you i have seen blogs before and I know you do not have all of the answers but maybe you can start me on my way to better understanding some things or just to finding the right question to ask please let me know where to ask.
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