In my siz­able col­lec­tion of main­stream porn movies you will find more and more movies which are attempt­ing to bor­row from the BDSM genre. Many of the toys I have recom­men­ded you can now a days find in a com­pletely inno­cent “bel­ladonna Pro­duc­tion”. Gags, whips and paddles, albeit most of the time used like little play-toys, are prob­ably noth­ing new to the seasoned porn star.

The world of fet­ish is becom­ing rap­idly asso­ci­ated with the world of Pron as well. Whether it is latex out­fits or latex bond­age tape,. many fet­ish mod­els are not exactly shy and nude cam­era work is often linked to por­no­graphic con­tent. As much as that asso­ci­ation is wrong for those of us truly inter­ested in the erotic aspects of fet­ish lingerie, dress and out­fits, it is an asso­ci­ation eas­ily made by the more main­stream consumer.

Which leads me to one ques­tion. What hap­pens as soon as the main­stream con­sumer accepts the world of BDSM and Fet­ish as just another niche that can be safely con­sumed? Does it take one medium that is undoubtedly con­sumed by almost any­one, namely por­no­graphic con­tent, to move a more niche life­style into the lime­light and make it acceptable?

All jok­ing aside I would stip­u­late that in most coun­tries in the demo­graphic up to around 40 por­no­graphic con­tent and the industry attached to it has been accep­ted as a viable per­sonal choice for those people that are a part of it. As such that industry has advert­ised and in some cases moved beha­viours, pos­i­tions and sex itself out of the corner of being a total taboo. Is a taboo still a taboo once it has been taken out of the closet and made a pub­lic commodity?

If those porn star­lets which are so dear to some con­sumers all of a sud­den exhibit a sub­missive streak, accept that they are being used, exposed and wrapped in those “per­ver­ted” toys, does that make it “Ok” in the eyes of their fans?

Should I be thank­ing stu­dios like kink.com for inaug­ur­at­ing the vari­ous spe­cial interest sites that they run, where they freely util­ise well known porn star­lets as the ones being abused? Undoubtedly because their name in the industry draws clicks and clicks are good, they bring consumers.

If we as a pool of indi­vidu­als that have a com­mon under­stand­ing of what we want do not stand up and expose ourselves than it is only fair that oth­ers shall do it for us? My prob­lem with that line of thought is prob­ably inher­ent to who I am. I hate the idea of not hav­ing con­trol over how oth­ers per­ceive the lifestyle.

As much as I like porn I also under­stand that it is a busy and most of the images brought to my brain are an ideal­istic rep­res­ent­a­tion of some­thing that does not reflect the real world at all. The girl next door is usu­ally not cap­able of shov­ing a fist up her ass and her hus­band does not have a 9 inch by 2 inch cock either. Just as we have come to accept that many of the things we see in a porno are illu­sions I would not want any­one to make that asso­ci­ation when it comes to hav­ing kink or fet­ish dis­played in one of those main­stream productions.

Some­times it pains me how gags are used and the rather point­less tap­ping of a flog­ger against a star­lets ass only as an intro­duc­tion into a stand­ard suck and fuck scene. There might be ser­i­ous BDSM pro­duc­tions out there, but their very nature caters to a niche audi­ence. A very import­ant audi­ence but an audi­ence that is nor­mally not reached by the pleth­ora of main­stream porn.

Per­son­ally I believe there are enough porno star­lets out there which exhibit truly sub­missive beha­viour. Either that or they are all very tal­en­ted act­resses. Movies such as Rocco’s “The Fash­ionis­tas” try to tap that poten­tial but I do not think that they go far enough. Same goes for the “Sex Slave” series, while they util­ise some of the harsher beha­viour in the genre and they sport some of the more depraved star­lets of the industry, it is still not por­trayed as “normal”.

In sum­mary I have to con­cede to the fact that I want our life­style to have more expos­ure and any­thing that can remove the taboo from kink should be con­sidered a good thing. Unfor­tu­nately the world is not as black and white we should have a very care­ful look at some of the mis­rep­res­ent­a­tions we all might be con­fron­ted with in the future. People nat­ur­ally fear what they do not under­stand. We should be very care­ful who we choose to be their teacher.