I had a lovely day yesterday. I took half a day off and we first met up with lily and her (almost Master) S. I had asked lily to teach me more about classical Kinbaku and the many different techniques involved which lead to a clean kata. Hanging out with lily and S is always fun, not only because we get to witness their budding relationship, but also because I enjoy both or their company. I am picky when it comes to the people I like to surround myself with and I fully enjoy the limited time I have with those that choose to be friends with us. Lily also shares something with me, which is precious. There is not a lot of knowledge in the western world on classical Kinbaku and when she passes on her learnings to me that is an expression of trust just as much as helping my curiosity. I am a big fan of her work and I would happily endorse her classes as much as I endorse her as a human being and friend.
Later that night we went on to hang out with @aps215 and discuss a couple of ideas we had bounced around twitter over the past couple of weeks. I believe that there is a growing market in the same-sex porno industry and merging that market with the perversion a deviant mind can come up with creates a genre that is no longer interesting only to that group of individuals. Furthermore there is enough evidence that you can create quite a splash in the Internet ocean when you play on the ideas and beliefs of individuals who are very opinionated about a certain topic. When we band names around such as brokenlipsticklesbians or abusedfeminists we are genuine in our belief that we could create a mecca for the perverted and those inclined to understand the irony of the pornographic material they are looking at. What is even more fascinating is that we are not two macho men scheming over this in the back-room of a strip club somewhere in a shady part of San Francisco. I would say that @aps215 is a pretty well rounded, smart lesbian feminist with a taste for submission and some topping, while I am a male that absolutely welcomes and believes in womens’ rights and their right to choose their sexuality. Personally I think that this idea appeals so much to me, because it twist the very fabric of what we believe in. While we can always discuss whether pornography is inherently degrading towards the female, whether BDSM paints a picture of females being incapable of standing up for themselves, the sheer irony of a web-site like abusedfeminists makes my spine tingle. Of course it would cater to those who truly believe that feminists need to be fucked up the ass, however I believe that it will cater much more easily to the ones that are actually in this lifestyle and they will simply be amused by the antics on that site. Having the support of someone like @aps215 only shows that you do not necessarily need to take yourself and what you stand for too seriously. I think that very act is one that plagues the BDSM community just as much as it plagues any other community. We sometimes believe that we need to fit so hard to uphold our traditions that we cannot stop to laugh at ourselves.
Fascinating as it may be, when she floated the idea to some of her friends she was not met by pitchforks and burning logs being thrown at her. It actually created interest with some of them and acceptance of the idea. I would go as far as to say that my tax-return for 2009 will probably be invested into seeding and shooting some of the initial scenes for this project. Niche porn is always hard to sustain as you usually generate volume through diversification, which is an expensive process, however in this case the possibilities seem endless. By focusing on a particular sub-group of you can then simply alter the activity you are engaging in. Now @aps215 and myself, as well as mys lave and most of our friends indulge in fetishes and ideas that have to do with BDSM. Naturally we would focus on those ideas. There is no reason though why we should not have a spitroastedfeminists web-site one day. I mentioned before that the possibilities are endless and that part of the appeal for this is the inherent irony. As sick and twisted as it sound, I am looking forward to irate phone calls in the middle of the night from those who will inadvertently take this too seriously. In fact I am looking forward to taping them and playing them in the background as we are working on our next scene for the web-site update. In the end this is about creating revenue while having fun. This is about altering my expectations on what my life should be like, about creating something that is a part of me and sharing it with the world while being enthusiastic about it. Just like my slave is a part of me, like pet has become a part of our interactions. My career is still a part of myself that rests in the vanilla world, a part that is removed from who I truly would like to be. I want to bring my expertise, my passion and my smarts to the place where acceptance is not an issue, where it is more about how creative you can get to express what you are and who you want to be. Some people are obsessed over asses, some go and create brilliance around a place like kink.com. I want to find myself immersed into the twisted and sick, the irony of the pleasurable which might upset some but brings a grin to the face of others.
Should you be one of the readers that also follow us on Twitter, you might have noticed that I have been talking about something I refer to as Løglå. The idea is to create bondage furniture, bondage equipment and accessories which are not individual pieces but a set of pieces that you can choose to combine in a million different ways. They are meant to stimulate the mind of a deviant kinkster and enabling him or her to build that piece of equipment they always wanted without having to spend a fortune. While I understand that this will be a very slow development and building acceptance of such a system might take time, I am prepared to invest myself and my weekends into this. Friends which I shared the basic idea with were encouraging enough for me to continue and S. actually made a brilliant point on how to build awareness around this type of system without needing to spend an exorbitant amount of money on traditional marketing.
I can honestly say that my life is slowly starting to develop into a direction i can see myself walking towards for the second part of my life. This also takes into account that the relationship we are currently entertaining with pet is going into the right direction and my slave and myself are getting the value from it that we expected to get. Seeing my slave develop her ability to expand her horizon and to command and control pet is not only pleasing to my eyes but it also warms my soul. That type of mutual growth is essential to any working relationship and I am glad that we have gotten to this point. pet itself is learning to behave better and we will being tightening control on her every day life over the next couple of months. Should she behave as I expect her to, I will maybe organise a gang-bang to her birthday. Nothing too fancy, we might invite @aps215 over to bring her strap-on and about five to 10 males. Maybe we will tape the whole event and give that tape to her as the actual present.
If you have any questions about the things mentioned in this little update, please do not hesitate and ask me. It is important to me to be as interactive as I can possibly be with my readership. Fell free to also express your interest in any of those projects except for the gang-bang. I will make sure to write more often, I had to go on a little hiatus and recharge. I am happy to say that I am back with fully charged batteries.