Her Owner

The devil is often in the detail. When we fail to pay attention to the little things we often set ourselves up for failure. As much as failure seems to be hidden in the creases that some details throw there is also great joy to be found when you do pay attention to detail. This weekend we spent two days with pet, since she was going home for Mother’s day on Sunday. Avid readers of our sites will know that pet has been through a couple of trials and tribulations lately. Releasing her emotional demons and dealing with some of the non-kink related situations in her life has proven to be a challenge and she had to rise to the occasion.

I can say today that I am proud of pet and that I believe she rose to the occasion like a rocket blasting into the evening sky. I am also proud because pet is really trying hard to evolved and grow and these growing pains are sometimes very uncomfortable. Doubt is probably the one emotion that can wreck most havoc on ones self confidence and when you are growing emotionally at the pace pet seems to be growing that feeling is a constant companion. All those little details creep up on you and you start to question whether you are in a position to deal with them or not. I will make a bold statement and say that pet dealt with most and is dealing with the rest.

I have also been reassured that pet tries hard. She had to do some extended chores this weekend, one of them involving her to be the cook and to serve the food. She managed to remember a little but crucial detail when serving food to her Miss (my slave) and that made not only me smile, but my slave as well. My slave likes her salad served with a particular type of fork. Pet actually managed to remember this little detail even though it had not been mentioned very often to her. This attention to detail and her willingness to invest herself when she aims to serve us, makes me proud of her. What is more important though is that she expressed this kind of detail to my slave and not me. It shows me that she is trying to listen to my slave just as hard and carefully as she would listen to me and that is a very important step into the right direction. For us to be happy, by that I mean all of us, it is crucial that pet has a desire to serve my slave and myself at exactly the same level of quality. I would even recommend to pet or anyone else that ever wants to be a part of our dynamic to ensure that my slave is happy.

Ultimately my slaves well being and her happiness will overrule any other considerations I might have. I like to be selfish and in the end the decision to continue an unhealthy relationship with someone is mine. The likelihood that I would actually do something like that is very minimal. My slave is my ultimate investment and I will not indulge in an act which deliberately jeopardises that investment of love, time and togetherness.
Growing from within often means that it requires change. Change can be subtle though and as it is with everything else in the details is hidden what makes the whole picture work. I believe that pet simply needed to be reassured of the choices she is allowed to make. I very much tried to reinforce that pet is considered to be ours when she is in the home. That we will take responsibility for her and that she is a part of the relationship already. We might not officially own pet, in the sense that we have taken responsibility for her and exposed to the rest of the world, but that does not change the fact that we have already put claim to some parts of her.

One of the more important details being here that it is not mine, it is our. That is another detail pet has been made aware of and I require her to be aware of at any given point in time. When she is in the house her body, her devotion and submission are not mine, they are ours. Those attributes belong to my slave as much as they belong to me and she is learning very well to accept that from where I am looking at it.

While pet is not a domestic servant at all and she is definitely not our slave I found it important to reinforce with her that she is in our home, that she is in our lives to serve. As a pet her focus should be on service and that service will be whatever we choose it to be. This weekend was different as I chose, together with my slave, to have her perform services we would normally not have her perform. Cooking being one of them. I had planned some others, however we never got to putting those into action.

I believe that we are at a point where we can go ahead and continue with the path we had set in the beginning. Her asscunt is healing well, she wore this plug for a while on the weekend:

This marks another milestone of development after all it means that her asscunt is beginning to heal. We are pondering whether the anal dilator kit is actually a good way of training her. Using her fingers and another toy might actually be a better way of training for her.I will try to invest more time into finding her proper puppygirl gear and we actually might have to have some made for her. I think we did find a harness that will work, the only things left to find are a puppy muzzle that will work for her and the right mittens for her hands. Knee guards and a way to tie her feet should be easy to find as they can be everyday times bought in a hardware store.

I really cannot complain about this weekend and I am excited what the future might bring.