Yes, I know, the title threw you, did it not? Why would I want to deliberately hurt my most priced possession? There is a good reason. I am writing this article to expand on a point my slave recently made on her journal about something the BDSM community calls subspace. Many treat subspace as something mysterious and it took me a long time to understand what it possibly could refer to myself. I am now convinced that it is a physiological state you can put your slave’s body in, if you learn to carefully stimulate her.

Pain

Pain itself is a very complex topic. It has been researched for decades and while we understand fully how pain receptors and chemicals involved work, we still do not quite understand how pain interacts with our body. To get a good understanding on the basics of Pain I would suggest you go and read the article published by the National Institute Of Neurological Disorders And Stroke.
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The other day I came home from work and walked past the small Indian shop close to the Underground station. That shop seems to sell everything you can find on the backstreets of Calcutta, imported to be sold here as well. The picture to the left is a result of a purchase I made that very day. I spotted these classic cloth pegs and I just had to have them. Not because I am running out of ways to pinch my clothing to dry it outside, but because the first thing I could think about when I saw those pegs was nipples.

Connections…

Looking at the cloth pegs I made an immediate connection between their shape and usual type of use and my slave’s body. The ends of these pegs are perfectly suited to allow a thin rope to be tied around it and their shape should make it easy to either trap nipples or even a swollen clitoris between the small wooden ends.(…)

How do you control your slave? Quite often that question is discussed on various online forums and quite often will you find that control should be achieved by tight feedback loops, rules and regulations. I can agree to some extent, as we are always looking for a common ground which is achieved ultimately by those tools mentioned above; consistency.When thinking about controlling my slave, I often come to think about how my cats control me. Yes, you heard right, there is actually one dominant force in my life and they are both tiny but very demanding. My cats manage to control me through many different means, there are some consistent ones I have learned to recognise.

• They only demand things when they truly want or need them.
• They are always there for me when they think I am sick or not feeling well
• They will always respect my moods
• They demand more

Translation

I know it still sounds very much like a bit of gibberish but bare with(…)

I had planned on writing a little piece on throat anatomy, only to find out during my research that there is already an excellent resource on the web. You can fin the link at the very bottom of this page, it is title deepthroating tutorial. Instead of doing that I will touch on some of the keywords used to find this web-site.

• “making someone your slave”
• “slave training”
• “training my slave”

These seem to be good indicators to me that there is a increasing need for a better explanation on the dominance and submission part in the BDSM world.

Resetting Expectations

Before we can venture further down this path of learning I need to reset your expectation. You cannot make someone your slave, nor can you magically make them want you to be their owner or dominant partner. You should always be aware that you best course of action is a safe, sane and most importantly consensual one.

Compliance which has been enforced by using force is short(…)