Recently my slave has published a post on her journal, explaining in detail my love for toys. I believe that a well balanced box of toys can enhance your sex life immensely, even if you are living in a vanilla relationship. Toys are capable of enhancing or substituting sensations during and before sexual interaction. Toys can also be used to deny a stimulus or turn it from being pleasurable into torture and then back again. A roller-coaster of sensations which is completely separated from what you are doing to your slave’s mind or body.

Mainstream?

Recently mild forms of BDSM have gained much traction in the mainstream Porn industry, especially the bondage and fetish categories seem to be a thriving new market, bringing actresses like Belladonna, Annette Schwartz and Bobbi Starr better access to the mainstream audience.

Too Tame…

Those rather mild forms of BDSM often revolve around rough sex, deep-throating and stretching of holes. My slave is different, more than any toy in the world(…)

I apologise for the missing pictures. The upgrade of my blog destroyed them, unfortunately I cannot recover them.
I have decided to take this screenshot and send it to my slave as a visual cue. Lately we have made much progress in the area of relaxing her holes enough so that she is no longer pained by the insertion of larger objects. Using objects which are not necessarily associated directly with sex, thus break a taboo, make it even more interesting. The mind is a powerful ally when you begin training your slave to find pleasure and nasty thoughts in anything that surrounds her.

Training By Association

Just like you would condition an animal by association this also works for human beings. The main difference is that a human being needs to allow this association to happen consciously. It is up to you, as an Owner, to ensure your slave feels safe enough to allow that association to happen. Often this means that already(…)

Cuivis dolori remedium est patientia.

My Latin is rusty, but those words roughly translate to “Patience is the cure for all suffering.“. My slave knows that she sometimes frustrates me, just as I frustrate her. Frustration can stem from a lot of sources, most of the time it is lack of understanding why I expect her to act in a certain way. Education is an essential part of any BDSM relationship, you need to be able to share your doubts and fears so that a topic may be resolved. To be able to do so you need to feel comfortable.

Change and Guarantee

Human beings are creatures of comfort. We like to feel at home in an environment we understand well and have gotten used to. It allows us to anticipate and understand well what is expected and thus makes us less prone to failure. Whenever someone tries to introduce change into an established environment you also introduce uncertainty. No one likes uncertainty and with(…)

Education is an integral part of our lives. When indulging in something out of the extraordinary, like skydiving, canyoning or BDSM it pays off to be well prepared. In this post I will try to examine the anatomy of your slave’s sphincter, paying attention to the mechanics involved to let it function properly. By understanding how nature had intended the asscunt to work, you will better understand what training might work best for your slave to more quickly and easily enjoy use of her asscunt. This is not a complete anatomy lesson, we will focus on three main parts:

• External Anal Sphincter
• Internal Anal Sphincter
• Anus

To better illustrate the areas we are going to cover, please study the picture to your left. Clicking on the picture will enlarge it and offer you a detailed view of the areas we will be studying today.

Different Masters…

Even though internal and external sphincter are mostly composed of the same fibers and both behave as muscles, there is a fundamental(…)